Finding Your Passion and Current Purpose-part 2

20180130_164503We all have a purpose.  There is not just one purpose but many interwoven with each other through time.  You are not just a mom, a wife, a farmer, a nurse, or a teacher.  You are a spiritual and feeling being and a human with desires and passions.  Identifying those passions that you have right now (passions change as you complete your paths) will help you find what will bring you the most joy.

It may be a career, or learning a new skill, it may be a profound change in yourself or your family for the better, whatever it is, it will create ripple effects throughout the world and space because everything that you do that is positive and with passion will grow and inspire others and will help you do what you are here to learn and experience.  Your dreams are not coincidental or fanciful or elusive.  If you have that desire now, it is for a reason.

Quiz time!  Grab a piece of paper (or a journal because this may the beginning of your journey!) and let us begin to piece it all together.

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1. In your ideal life when you wake up in the morning where are you?  Hawaii?  South Dakota?  Italy?

On a farm?  In the city?  In a cozy home?  Be detailed.  Even if you think it is impossible.  Be exact.

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2. In your ideal life who is there with you?  Be honest.  Are you happy in your relationships?  Are there things that need to be addressed?  Who are the people that you love most and that make your life beautiful and fulfilling?

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3. In your ideal life, when you first wake up, what are you doing?  What is your role?  Are you a writer?  A farmer?  A traveler?  A doctor?  What do people come to you for?

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4. Picture yourself in your mind’s eye.  What do you look like?  What do you want to look like?

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5. Name all of the things you have interest in right now, no matter how small.  Gardening, running a bed and breakfast, starting a sanctuary, going back to school, opening a restaurant, learning yoga, getting rid of clutter, losing weight, writing a book, getting a dog….write down everything!  They may not seem related but upon further analysis you may see that they are all related!

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6. What are you best at?  What do people come to you for or say that you are the best at?  Does that thing bring you joy?

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7. Name twenty blessings in your life right now.  Name five things you would like to see morph into something better.

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Now go back and answer questions 1-3 in present tense. How things are now.  Compare them to your ideal life.

Really study what you do, where you want to be, who you want to be with, what your passions and interests are, how you want to be seen, what your life does and could look like.  You may love your life and that is great but we are always moving and morphing and our path keeps winding so to have a fresh perspective on what we want to do, where we want to be, and what we want to experience in this lifetime are important.  Keep learning, keep dreaming, be your best self, don’t become complacent or hopeless, move bravely down the path of your passion!

What did you discover?

Your Ideal Life (who are you? what do you want?)

Another young life snuffed out over the weekend always causes stirs in the close knit community that we lived in for so long.  Our children knew him, went to school with his siblings, we helped his mother with pain when we had our store, she too a victim of a car accident.  But this time her son was taken back to where we start and left a terrible hole in the hearts of many.

One of my close friends that I love was in a similar accident and was thrown from her vehicle.  The very same fate could have met her.

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Our lives are whispers, really.  There is no time to live a life that is not ours.  In each of us there are specific passions and interests that are meant to lead us to the life that we will have the most impact on the people around us and be the happiest.  A blueprint, if you will.  The prayers that are answered and the seemingly amazing chain of events that allows a person to live their dreams is not luck or karma, it is the path that person was supposed to follow!

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Our paths and interests change as we do.  Everything I have done would appear to have nothing in common but there are links through them all.  From modeling to dancing to herbalism to farming, I have been teaching the whole time.  I have long been interested in everything old fashioned and devoured books like Little House and Anne of Green Gables.  It is not surprising that I am here.

Now, where would you like to be?  Here are three exercises for you to write down and your path will be ever clear.  Through these you may find that you want to pursue a new hobby or completely change your lifestyle.  Maybe you want to move or maybe just take up sommelier classes!  There are no right or wrong answers.

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Exercise #1– Write down your ideal morning.  What time would you wake up?  What are you drinking?  What does your view look like?  Who are you with?  What are you doing?  Where are you?  Would this be a morning you could do every day?  How do you feel?

I wrote this down a few times and after a while I realized that I was waking up and living my ideal morning each day!  Up at dawn, quiet house, cups of coffee, writing, then sitting on the porch with the kitty when it is warm.  I feel peaceful and ready for the day.  If I am rushed in the morning, my mood is rather unattractive!

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Exercise #2– Walk through each row of the non-fiction section of the library slowly and look at each section.  Notice your reaction to each category.  What subjects pique your interest or simply make you smile?

I did this a few days ago.  I find that I smile at the books about children and the children’s section.  I love the travel section, mostly the Italian wine country memoirs.  I love the wine section and I can never leave without twenty cook books!  I love books about farming, particularly memoirs.  I enjoy fictional books about the Amish.

Five years ago I may have been obsessed with all of the herbal medicine books.  Five years before that I might have been interested in beginning gardening and decorating.

I bet librarians know a lot about their patrons just by seeing what they read.  You can find a lot of things out about yourself this way.  We tend to lose ourselves in the world.

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Exercise #3– Make four columns on a piece of paper. In the first one write everything you love in your life.  Kids, job, pets, roses, pretty table cloths, whatever.

In the second one write down everything that causes you stress. Why?  Is there a way to change your reaction, your situation, or is it something you can get out of your life?

In the third column write what you have found out about yourself from the exercises above.  What do you love?  What makes you happy?  What do you want to learn?  How do you want to live?  What does your ideal life look like?

Finally, in the fourth column write three ways you can start to get the life you really want.  This could be big or small.  Put house on market.  Sign up for Spanish classes.  Stop obsessing about food.  Get a library book about becoming a rose farmer.  Get chickens.

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All of our lists will be different.  I do this regularly.  Sometimes we just need to write things down.  Sometimes the obvious is lost in the hustle and bustle of every day.

Happy Dreaming!  Happy life planning!  Happy living the way you are intended to live.  Whether you are nine or ninety, I wish you your ideal life.

The Entertaining Farmgirl-Christmas Time

I used to be known for my Christmas party.  I had one every year.  Hundreds of dollars spent on food.  Friends from all facets of our life were invited.  Each year I spent so much time in the kitchen, serving, cleaning up, trying to talk to everyone, that I actually didn’t get to spend any time with my friends.  I was more of the roaming, stressed hostess.  The last time we had a party, I hired someone to come do the dishes and help serve.  I had more time to talk to a few friends  before I noticed that all the food was gone and some of the guests were so drunk and obnoxious that they started offending and scaring off the other guests.  We needed to change something.  (Not the friends, I love those goofy guys.)

The only good thing about those parties was my ice breaker.  People talked about it and looked forward to it all year.  I split the guests into groups of unaffiliated couples.  They were given a sheet of paper with all of our animals’ names on it and told to tell what movie each name came from.  Back then we only had eight cats and one or two dogs.  It would be a hoot to do it now with sixteen chickens, two goats, two alpacas, along with eight cats, and two dogs!

We decided to have individual dinners with each group of friends.  I could be more present and really enjoy my friends.  We often go to a restaurant with Monte and Erik to exchange presents and celebrate our friendship and the year.  Toast the year ahead.  We’ll meet Margie and her family tonight at the wine bar.  Rodney, Pat, Kat, Rod, and Mark will come over Christmas night.  Last night we hosted Nancy and her crew.  Farmgirls reunited.  We made it through a treacherous summer of farmer’s markets.  Didn’t kill each other and came out stronger.  I was delighted to have her and her husband, daughter and boyfriend, and Nancy’s nephew who was home on leave from the Marines over for dinner.  My girls were here, the twinkly lights, candle lights, and oil lamp seems to shine brighter and sweeter with friends over.

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Here are some tips for putting together a seamless holiday dinner.  Everything is done in advance.  Don’t choose a day you work or will be running around to host ten people for dinner.

1. Clean the house during the day or the day before.  It doesn’t have to be perfect.  Candlelight and friends are forgiving.

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2. Set the table hours in advance.  Shoo cats off the table for the rest of the day.

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3. Prepare coffee pot and place after dinner cups on a tray.

4. Choose the menu a good week before and make sure you have the ingredients for it.  Let friends bring things.  They truly don’t mind (after all, their house is staying clean!).  Drinks, or an appetizer, or dessert could be taken care of if you only ask.

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5. Get creative with table settings.  I used an old lace curtain, topped with a round lace tablecloth, topped with a large, vintage doily.  Candles along the table.  Mix matched Christmas china…..let’s stop there.  I know that it is tempting to use Christmas paper plates but it is so much prettier and makes people feel special if you go all out with presentation.  I had everyone wash just their plate and I have considerably less dishes to do this morning.  Or Doug does anyway.  A canning jar acted as a water cup with a wine glass next to it.  Instead of cloth napkins, I threw in a bit of humor with cocktail napkins with funny sayings.  People started laughing immediately upon arrival as soon as they saw them.

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6. Back to the meal.  I always choose something like soup or pasta that can be made and sit in a pot on warm in the oven until ready to serve.  No more cooking while folks are over.  I made goulash last night in a cast iron pot and placed it in the oven.  A jar of sauerkraut, a jar of apple and pear sauces, and Nancy’s crisp salad rounded out the meal.  (It sure is nice having a full root cellar of canned food.  It is like having a grocery store in the basement.)

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7. Open up the wine and have a glass.  ‘Tis the time of year to celebrate!

Let’s see how you fare on the ice breaker.  Reply with your answers.  They are characters from a movie, play, or commercial.

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Frankie and Louie (from a commercial)-

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Mr. Boogedy Boo (Boo boo)-

Eliza Doolittle-