We have been thinking about renewing our vows for some time now. We decided to wait until we had a home of our own. A celebration in itself coupled with a renewal of love and new beginnings. We have certainly lived through all of our promises…through sickness and health…through richer and poorer…and have come out stronger than ever. There were times of great sadness. But the times of great joy and a life together lived with excitement and courage has reigned prevalent. We share a friendship and a bond with more great memories than we can recollect.
We had a lovely wedding. As many weddings go, we planned for months, spent our life savings (and a good chunk of my in-laws’ savings), I became Bridezilla (crying bitterly over the greens in my flowers…I plead insanity), and then a snow storm hit and everyone skedaddled out of there promptly after the meal. It was a blur but we were married.
This time is different. A bit of fun, a bit of whimsy, without expectations. That is what makes things stressful. Expectations.
1. This time we have no idea who is coming. We invited to our joint house warming/vow renewal one hundred and thirty people. Most have not responded. It doesn’t matter. Those that want to be a part of the ceremony and stand by us will be there. I expect roughly forty, but perhaps not all for the vows. I rented twenty chairs for a buck a piece. The couches and miscellaneous chairs will fill in. We do not need everything to match. Just invite your favorite folks and let it roll. Do not be hurt if certain people do not come. We are all on many journeys. We cannot possibly handle everyone’s schedule.
2. Have fun! We are having a traditional Scottish wedding. Why not? Our friend is coming down with his bagpipes. Our Renaissance friend is doing the ceremony complete with anvil. Doug is wearing a kilt. I am wearing my original wedding dress (which was my mother’s wedding dress when she renewed her vows) with corset, slips, and plaid beneath to show through. I’ll pick up roses or something from the grocery store tonight.
3. Ask family and friends to help. Our daughter, Shyanne, is making the cake. Our other daughter, Emily, is taking care of all the food. Shyanne is a master baker and has her own baking company, A Witch and Whisk. Emily wants to open her own restaurant. She has been in the business for five years. She is setting up a taco bar. My friend, Alvin, is doing the photos. He is an amazing photographer. My mother-in-law is making some delicious desserts. Fruit infused waters make an inexpensive and delicious drink. Homemade chokecherry wine and beers for toasts.
4. Go with the flow. It always feels like Spring in Pueblo but it is not going to be particularly warm tomorrow to my great dismay. Somewhere between 35 and 45 degrees in the morning. The sun always makes it feel warmer. We may not know until morning if the ceremony will be outside or inside. The bagpipes should be outside! Folks can grab a couple of chairs and we can move them where we wish. Take weather and the flow of the day with a smile and a heart of gratitude.
5. Gratitude. That is the key. Be happy there is a celebration to be had! Loved ones made a point of being there in a world of busyness. There is food and drink and laughter. And bagpipes. Can’t get better than that!
Next week I will share with you the celebration in pictures. Perhaps it is time for you to plan a celebration of your own? They do make life ever sweet.